And just like that, I decided what was important to me at my wedding:

Cute shoes, a bird cage veil, and gifts for my wedding party.

I have forfeited flowers and tradition.  I am DIYing boutonnieres and avoiding bachelorette bridal fiascos.  I am reacting more strongly to this footwear than to the dress itself.  There was a recent splurge and this angel is gonna wear some red shoes on her wedding day.